You Should Get Married
"What tribe are you?"
The man beside me asked, while I was waiting for a vehicle that would convey me to work. I guessed him to be in his late forties.
"I am Ijaw" I responded. "What tribe are you Sir?"
He responds inaudibly and adds that he is from Kogi State.
He went on to say how some Ijaw people are nice, and that his brother was taken to Port-Harcourt and introduced to a man, and now this said brother is a very big man.
I thought in my head that that was nice, how strangers could be the gateway to the next big thing. Keep in mind that by brother he probably meant a cousin, distant relative, or an individual from the same tribe, or same state of origin.
moments of silence
"Are you married?"
ah ah, just lai dat?
"No Sir"
By this time my countenance had changed. I am tired of random men, randomly proclaiming love/likeness and going ahead to make marriage proposals.
"You should get married..."
okay
"...the way you are from head to toe, there is nothing wrong with you"
do you mean physically? but that would be weird because I've got clothes on, and you have no idea if anything is wrong with me, head to toe. really. 👀
I think he sized me up and probably tried to guess my age. And by his opinion of my looks or assumed age, I should be married.
another moment of silence
"It's too much selection that's causing it, you may never know. I worked three years as a gate man before I married my wife, earning 14 thousand Naira...14 thousand Naira. Then I used to think, this one that is not enough for me, how will it take care of two. Shortly after I married my wife I got a new job, from there bought a land and other things. Who would have known? Sometimes that's how God likes to do his things...You should get married."
Ladies and Gentlemen;
⦁ Physical appearance/maturity should not be a sole yardstick for marriage decisions.
⦁ Humans should get married only when they are ready, and when they decide to get married.
⦁ Selection shouldn't be a problem, we all have preferences.
⦁ Going ahead to get married without an 'okay' financial status on either side, with the hopes of
making it later, is risky business. Waiting long before the 'big break' can be frustrating and might put a strain on any marriage.
My question is, should love be put on hold for an okay financial status? Or are we going with love and hopping for the best? What is the way around this?
The man beside me asked, while I was waiting for a vehicle that would convey me to work. I guessed him to be in his late forties.
"I am Ijaw" I responded. "What tribe are you Sir?"
He responds inaudibly and adds that he is from Kogi State.
He went on to say how some Ijaw people are nice, and that his brother was taken to Port-Harcourt and introduced to a man, and now this said brother is a very big man.
I thought in my head that that was nice, how strangers could be the gateway to the next big thing. Keep in mind that by brother he probably meant a cousin, distant relative, or an individual from the same tribe, or same state of origin.
moments of silence
"Are you married?"
ah ah, just lai dat?
"No Sir"
By this time my countenance had changed. I am tired of random men, randomly proclaiming love/likeness and going ahead to make marriage proposals.
"You should get married..."
okay
"...the way you are from head to toe, there is nothing wrong with you"
do you mean physically? but that would be weird because I've got clothes on, and you have no idea if anything is wrong with me, head to toe. really. 👀
I think he sized me up and probably tried to guess my age. And by his opinion of my looks or assumed age, I should be married.
another moment of silence
"It's too much selection that's causing it, you may never know. I worked three years as a gate man before I married my wife, earning 14 thousand Naira...14 thousand Naira. Then I used to think, this one that is not enough for me, how will it take care of two. Shortly after I married my wife I got a new job, from there bought a land and other things. Who would have known? Sometimes that's how God likes to do his things...You should get married."
Ladies and Gentlemen;
⦁ Physical appearance/maturity should not be a sole yardstick for marriage decisions.
⦁ Humans should get married only when they are ready, and when they decide to get married.
⦁ Selection shouldn't be a problem, we all have preferences.
⦁ Going ahead to get married without an 'okay' financial status on either side, with the hopes of
making it later, is risky business. Waiting long before the 'big break' can be frustrating and might put a strain on any marriage.
My question is, should love be put on hold for an okay financial status? Or are we going with love and hopping for the best? What is the way around this?
Everyone should go ahead and fall in love, regardless of their financial status. It's a wonderful feeling. But it's even better when there's more money in it.
ReplyDeleteHmmm... When you say "put love on hold" are you referring to "love" or "marriage" ? I don't think love is something that can be put "on hold". It's not a jacket one can wear or take off when one feels like. Marriage on the other hand, is a choice 2 people can (and should!) decide to hold off on till they are ready (financially, emotionally etc).
ReplyDeleteThat being said, I'll go with Love. Money will come. As long as you're hard -(and smart!!) working the money will come. Love...love tends to be a little more elusive.
Yes, should we deliberately avoid putting on the 'jacket of love' in the first place, knowing that we are not financially stable for marriage?
DeleteYes! Deliberately avoid it [if possible]... It's risky business too if you don't have the emotional and financial capacity at the moment.
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